When you are in the middle of immense suffering, please do not force yourself to make it positive, meaningful, transcendent. Perhaps you have just lost what you have always lived for. Perhaps even the fear of losing it paralyses you. Maybe you have lost touch with the meaning of your…

The Shattered Light of Being Bright — You, the gifted child, came into the world with such vitality and joy — you see the world through kaleidoscopic lenses, every color and shape a wonder to behold. Your mind is a maze of endless possibilities, and your heart beats with passion and intensity. You broadcast your love to…

The experience of growing up with parents who couldn’t offer the necessary emotional support has a profound impact on the terrain of your inner world. It’s not the kind of trauma that comes from a single event; instead, complex trauma arises from a persistent absence of empathy and enduring neglect…

In the realm of narcissistic abuse, there’s a covert and lesser-explored form known as “Projective Identification.” It’s a psychological maneuver, a subtle yet powerful tool often used by those with narcissistic tendencies. Unlike more obvious forms of abuse, parental projective identification operates on a subconscious level, and has a profound…

Why, when and how when you have a mother with BPD — Growing up with a mother with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a complex journey where love and cruelty intertwine, leaving one perplexed and anxious. In this comprehensive long essay, we delve into the challenges of having a mother with BPD, addressing crucial aspects like whether or not we maintain contact…

“What if I regret it when they die?” — Setting boundaries with parents is a weighty and profound journey, especially for those of us who have dealt with unempathic, narcissistic, or emotionally needy parents. The question, “What if they die and I regret it?” brings together two societal taboos — the need to establish boundaries with our parents and…

Breaking the Totem Why is it that society forbids us from casting light on certain facets of existence? Not all parents are able to give their children the love, care, and respect they need. Fact, but one that is routinely brushed under the rug. Society expects us to maintain a facade of happy…

Are you feeling too much, or too little? — Imagine a person whose heart has been shattered by pain and trauma, leaving them feeling like a mere shadow of their true self. Maybe they experienced losing a loved one, the pain of betrayal, or the emotional turmoil of a broken relationship. What happened has left them vulnerable, fearful, and…

Being a Gifted Engineer in the Silicon Valley Software engineer burnout is a significant issue in the tech industry. Gifted engineers often face unique challenges that can make their work environment especially toxic. They may need more challenging tasks to stay engaged and motivated and more autonomy to complete projects on their own terms. …